45 lessons life taught me

This was sent to me by my high school cheerleading coach (the text, not the video). I really love it. I wish I could keep these things in mind each day.

I have had much admiration for Jared Leto for quite sometime... it probably started back in the day with the show "My So-Called Life" (hmmm... I wonder where I got the inspiration for the name of my blog?) and continued when he became a part of the band "30 Seconds to Mars". I love this song, and I recommend that you play this video and listen to this song while reading the following text.

Enjoy :)

A lot of people have been asking to see my new digs. I'm actually at Table Rock right now, so I think my next post will include a comprehensive view of both homes, since I feel I'll be spending my time equally at both places.

Until next time....

Written By Regina Brett, 90 years old, of the local newspaper "The Plain Dealer", Cleveland , Ohio: To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the most-requested column I've ever written. My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here is the column once more.

1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

4. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch.

5. Pay off your credit cards every month.

6. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.

8. It's OK to get angry with God. He can take it.

9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.

10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

11. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.

12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.

13. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.

15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye.

16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

17. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.

18. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.

19. It's never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.

20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer..

21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.

23. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.

24. The most important sex organ is the brain.

25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.

26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words 'In five years, will this matter?'

27. Always choose life.

28. Forgive everyone everything.

29. What other people think of you is none of your business.

30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.

31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

32. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

33. Believe in miracles.

34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do.

35. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

36. Growing old beats the alternative -- dying young.

37. Your children get only one childhood.

38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.

41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

42. The best is yet to come.

43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

44. Yield.

45. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift.

SATC2

Oh where to start....?

To begin, I’ll let you know right off the bat that this is a very mixed review.

First of all, can you say “long”?! My goodness! I get it, there’s just so much fabulousness in SATC you just want to pack it all in- but honestly!? One hour and fifty seven minutes?! A girl can only take so much!

I felt almost as if the movie was shot by two different directors.

Michael Patrick King did such a good job of forming such a cohesive series for six years, and even the first SATC movie seemed so true to the series he had directed. I almost can’t believe that the first half of this movie could have been directed by him. I think one of the greatest things about this show (and most successful shows) is that the actors make it look flawless. Sarah Jessica Parker (SJP), Kim Cattrall, Kristin Davis, and Cynthia Nixon always did such a good job of making it seem on film like they really were friends- like we were really getting a glimpse of what their lives looked like. It didn’t seem like acting. It seemed like the lines they were given were their own words; as natural as can possibly be.

Well in this movie- that was so not the case. I could not believe the continuous, obvious “line cues” going back and forth between the actors. And beyond that, none of it was natural at all, not for real life, and not even for their characters!

SPOILER ALERT! (only a minor one) The “gay wedding” was ridiculous. SATC has always been known for being a little over the top (“a little” being the operative word here); but they took it just a step too far. Having Liza Minnelli officiate the wedding, and then going on to perform her version of “Single Ladies”.... I mean, really?! I get that it’s a movie, but I feel that SATC has always done such a good job of keeping it relatively true to life. I’m not saying that Liza would never officiate someone’s wedding- but I feel like they would have to really be someone to know, and I just don’t feel like Stanford and Anthony really fit in that category.

Speaking of Liza Minnelli, if you can say “long”, can you say “cameo”?! Since when does SATC need other famous actors to boost their ratings? Sure, they’ve had other well known actors come on every once in a while but I just really don’t feel like they needed so many: Liza Minnelli, Miley Cycus, Penelope Cruze, Tuesday Knight. Maybe four cameo’s doesn’t sound like a lot, but for SATC, I personally think it’s far too many.

Before I wrap up my bash session, I’ll end this portion with this: I just think that the majority of the first half was trying way too hard. Every single scene seemed like a trailer, and not a movie with meaty dialogue. I wouldn’t generally be this critical, but I hold SATC to a rather high standard. I mean, they stayed on the air, and popular for so long- I just don’t understand the rather seemingly desperate cries in this one.

On to my praise, I’ll try to keep this short and sweet (just like the good portion of the film). The second half really picked up. It really started to feel more like the traditional SATC we all know and love when Carrie saw Aiden. SPOILER ALERT! (this one’s kinda a big one) I think we all knew what was coming when we saw the trailer of Carrie seeing Aiden, I mean, it has been smooth sailing for long enough they had to throw someone cheating somewhere in there to shake things up!

Essentially- if you’re a SATC fan, of course you have to see this one, but keep your expectations low. I was also hoping that this would be kind of the end of the road for this series, but no such luck- I just read online that a third movie is already in the works, and most likely a forth will follow. Thank God, that sounds to be the end of it.

And lastly, I'd like to pick a fight with whoever is in the editing department of the movie poster. I’m guessing they paid all of their famous actors to do their cameos so they had to hire someone out of their first design class. The photoshop on this is unbelievable. SJP’s face looks like it’s been copied and pasted onto her body (that is, if it even IS her body), and I’m fairly certain that that’s not even Kim face. (please compare the bottom photo to this top one)

If you have already seen it, or plan on seeing it, please leave me a comment below and let me know what you thought!

Pageantry

Back in the beginning of April, I put an ad out on Omaha’s Craigslist to advertise my maternity photography services. To this day, I still have yet to have received one single phone call or email inquiring about my services. (this is where all of my photographer friends are screaming that I need a website. Yes, I know.)

When I was in Greeley, visiting Brodie, I got an email from Nationals Inc. informing me that I had been chosen to judge the Miss Teen Omaha pageant. It would be an unpaid job, but in return, they would offer me the opportunity to promote my company (Abbey Corbett Photography) to the contestants and their families attending the pageant.

At first, I thought it was a scam. They had after all, found me off of Craigslist. I thought about it for a few days before replying. When I did finally decide to reply, I kept it short and sweet just in case it was in fact, a scam.

Right away, I could tell that it wasn’t and I was really intrigued. Shortly there after I received my official application, which I turned in that day and a day or two later I got the confirmation email stating that I would be on the judges panel. Along with the confirmation came my information packet. The first day entailed a briefing and lunch with the other judges followed by the contestant interviews. The pageant was divided into four categories, and each panel of judges was given two groups.

I was really hoping that I would get the oldest group, because I worried that I wouldn’t be able to relate to the younger kids. I was told that I needed to come to lunch prepared with at least two questions to ask each contestant during their interview. So the days leading up to the pageant, I did my research and made a short list of questions. As luck would have it, I of course, got the tiny tots so all the questions I’d come up with were a little too sophisticated for my age group. Luckily they split it up so each panel of judges would get one group of young girls, and one group of older girls. I was in charge of the 7-9 year olds (Miss Jr. Pre-Teen) and 13-15 year olds (Miss Jr. Teen).

When the first interviewee came in, I thought she was going to throw up. She was absolutely petrified. I thought that it was a little ironic because she probably had no idea that her panel of judges were just as scared as she was. After the first few contestants, we all took a deep breath and got into a groove. It was a long day of interviewing. I was a little disappointed at the end of the day to make it back to my photography table to see that not a single person had signed up, and only two people had taken a flyer.

Right then, I got it... all the other photographers had big set ups, very professional looking flyers and postcards, and give-away’s. So that night I went home, got all of the prints I had with me in NE together to create some sort of set up; got a give-away together; and even redid the prizes I had for the winners of the pageant.

The next day I showed up armed, and ready to go!

The second day of the pageant consisted of casual wear, formal wear, and the top 10/semi finals.

The second day was far more fun than the first day of interviews. It went by quickly though. The first day of interviews, my pages were filled with notes. On the second day, I’d started writing notes as fast as I could and realized that it just wouldn’t be possible.

The girls were scored on a 1-20 scale. I chose to start everyone off at a 10 and either go up or down from there, though I don’t think I ever gave anyone anything lower than a 10 and nothing higher than a 19. I peaked at the other judges sheets a couple of times... I think I’m kinda a tough judge :/

After the top 10, and the winners were announced, I can’t say I wasn’t a little surprised. The only girl who I was sure to win was in the Miss Jr. Pre-Teen group. Everyone else was quite a surprise!

When it was all over, the judges were invited up on stage to give the winners and runners-up their prizes and to have their picture taken. I chose to give away a free photo shoot to the winners. I have emailed the director of the program asking for a copy of the photo, so hopefully I’ll be able to post that at some point.

All in all, I have to give my first pageant experience a 9 out of 10 (remember, I’m a tough judge). The thing I liked most about Nationals Inc. is that they promote self confidence and inner beauty. It was clear from the start that they were not your typical “beauty pageant” pageant. We were not to judge based on looks or appearance, but rather on how they carried themselves, their confidence, and most importantly, WHY there were at the pageant. We were asked to ask the girls in a non-direct way why they chose to join the pageant. If it came across that their mother (or guardian) had pushed them into it- we would score them lower, because they wanted girls who WANTED to be there, not who were forced to being there. They really focus on raising these girls’ self esteem, teaching them interview skills, and making new friends. From the website: If you would like to gain self-confidence, make new friends, and create opportunities to achieve further success, you will find that this pageant competition is just what you are looking for. Weather it is your first pageant or your tenth, our goal is to help you feel comfortable with yourself just the way you are! Personality is the most important part of our competition. Our goal is to provide a program that empowers and encourages young ladies to succeed in today's society. Nationals will enhance each participant's self-confidence though positive competition and leadership.

I’m definitely proud that I was chosen, and pleased with the companies outlook.

from the Northwest to the Midwest

I'm all packed up and ready to go!
day 1 Portland > Boise

leaving Portland was hard, lots of tears on the way out of town. I'd been saying for a while that I wanted it to rain on my last day in Oregon... well, I got what I wanted. I didn’t expect it to follow me my entire trip though! I made my first stop in Baker City for dinner. Holy cow! Expensive gas! I wanted to stay, and part of me wishes I would have. But I’m glad I could at least stop there since it is where my life (especially my Oregon life) began.
Eventually made it to Boise after a ton of terrible weather. I made it about two hours later than I had wish I would have. My hotel bed was screaming my name.

I had really wanted to edit pictures since I had (and still have) a list of photos to get to people but only edited a few ring pictures for a friend of Anna's and went to bed.

Day 2, Boise > Leihi
7:45 am, my alarm goes off. I woke up really tired, wanting to stay in bed. Such a great bed. I made a yummy waffle and yoinked a poppy seed muffin, and a box of cereal. (doesn't my breakfast look yummy!? and you can see my car waiting to take me on my journey)




The drive from Boise to Leihi was relatively uneventful, I was really looking forward to getting to Utah to see Alisa. I had to stop on the side of the road to take some pictures though- the scenery was too beautiful to pass up. Nothing feels better to a photonerd than a roadside photo shoot! I felt bad putting Alisa on hold- but I’m so happy I stopped.


As I got closer, Alisa called to tell me there was a huge storm heading my way. High winds, huge hail, etc. I told her I was looking at the storm cloud up ahead. As soon as I got off the phone with her, the radio issued a storm warning saying hail up to 1/4 in and winds up to 60 MPH!
Welcome to Utah is right!


Seeing Alisa was great. It was fun seeing her house and the places she’s been talking about the last few months. I had a good time making fun of a neighboring town, “American Fork”. I mean really... who names a town American Fork!? That night we went to see the movie The Bounty Hunter. It was fun. Got home from the movie with enough time to skype with Joe and edit my first picture from SS.

I think only my true photonerds will appreciate this one ;)


Day 3, Leihi > Greeley
I woke up and enjoyed a bowl of captain crunch before hitting the road to head to Colorado. I couldn’t believe that it was snowing! I guess I should have expected that though. Driving through/near Park City was really fun. Driving through the snow reminded me of my days in Flagstaff. Really beautiful. I wish it wasn’t so cold so I could have gotten out and taken a few pictures. I suppose I still could have, but I wasn’t dressed appropriately. I stopped at a really cool rest stop because I needed to pee, but I wished that I wasn’t alone AND that it wasn’t as cold because they had a hiking trail that went up pretty high, and I can only imagine would have been a beautiful view to photograph.

I was hoping to make it to CO before 5 PM so that I could make it to a cheer clinic that Brodie was putting on. Unfortunately, I was feeling drowsy on the road which essentially caused me to pop open a rockstar which of course made me have to pee every 30 minutes. Which isn’t necessary a bad thing when feeling like I want to take a nap while driving.

One word to describe Wyoming: BORING! So much so, that I'm not even going to bore you with pictures! (besides, I only took one of the "Welcome to Wyoming" sign.)

Can anyone tell me where my Kiddo is?!?! I haven't seen him in a few years! Can you help me find him?

I pulled into Greeley a little later than I had hoped for, and missed the clinic. But at least I made it alive, and in once piece! We went back to his house so I could drop my stuff off and then headed out for dinner and margaritas. I honestly don’t think I’ve had mexican food that good in a long time.

There he is!!!!!
Me and my kiddo had a great time, and wrapped up the evening with some more drinks and Anchor Man.

Day 4, Greeley
I woke up with only a minor headache! Got ready for the day, and headed out in search for a B of A. Apparently Greeley only believes in ATMs. :/ Brodie took me to a really fun place for lunch called JB’s. It’s a place similar to Sonic, but they also have an indoor dining area. You seat yourself, and menu’s are already at the table. When you decide what you want, you pick up a red phone at your table and “call” the kitchen. They are apparently famous for their root beer and after ordering one, I can understand why. It was delish! We went to the mall in Fort Collin’s for a little shopping. I found two really cute pairs of shoes for summer, and had my eyebrows threaded for the first time!
I was really scared going into it, but couldn’t be happier with the results, and swear I may never go back to waxing.
After the mall we headed back to Greeley and decided we would stop at a physic that we had seen on the way to the mall. I’ve never done anything like this before, but have always wanted to try. I’m still not sure how much I believe any of it, but I’m really glad I did it. She read my palms and this is the general run down of what she told me: I'm going to die at 87; will get married only once; have three kids; happy future, lots of smiling/laughing; WILL leave for nyc; will meet someone in NE (or maybe she was talking about CO?)
Off to the bars we go! Where else have you ever heard of “all you can drink”!? Only in Greeley! Whiskey River

Day 5, Greeley
I had a blast at the Whiskey River drinking with Bonnie, Tammy, and of course, Brodie. We woke up and got ready the next morning, Brodie got the phone call saying that we can get in to get a ghost tour Stanly hotel.
It was fascinating. Unfortunately, we didn’t experience any ghosts first hand. Stephen King visited the hotel which inspired him to pump out The Shining only 7 days later. I have neither read the book or seen the movie, but they are apparently nothing alike, but there was a TV mini series that’s much closer to the book. The Shining was actually filmed at Timberline Lodge in Mt. Hood OR because the shots weren’t isolated enough at the actual hotel.

Had lunch at Chick-fil-a since we don’t have them in Oregon, OR Nebraska. It was so yummy. Anyone wanna tell me why they have HUGE pepper grinder at Chick-fil-a???

Brodie and I took the night off and played it pretty easy with some Cold Stone, Taco Bell, and Will & Grace. :)

Day 6, Greeley
waking up without a hangover? What’s that?
Brodie’s parents made us a delicious breakfast so that we’d be well fed for the Denver Mile High flee market. The flee market was quite an experience. I was sad I didn’t find anything, but we sure did get Brodie’s dad and Mick (Brodie’s dog) hooked up with some new Bronco’s gear! I was hoping to find a new vintage camera to add to my collection, but no luck. Brodie only found beer- so I guess we were both unsuccessful. (oh and an airbrush tattoo, see!)
After that we headed back to Greeley to meet up with Bonnie and her daughter Breanne. Back in 2004 when Brodie and I worked together for Cheer Ltd., we taught a camp at the school he was coaching and Breanne was one of the seniors on the team. It’s hard to believe that she’s now old enough to drink! Not that I minded... I had a great time with her.

Day 7, Greeley
I decided to stay in Greeley an extra day so I could help Brodie with a last minute practice. It was a slow day just relaxing and trying to take this alone time to catch up on my blog and finally edit a few more pictures from the Supershoots workshop!
I had a really fun practice with Brodie and his kiddo’s. I even stunted around a little! Ahhhhh, when will I ever learn not to toe!? We went back to Chick-fil-a for dinner (yes, again). Yum, yum, yum! We went back home bound and determined to find our old cheer DVDs so we could do the dances together, but no such luck. So we put on "Fired Up" instead and I edited more pictures.

Overall I had a great trip to Greeley. I had a great time everyday, and made a few new friends here too! Guess Brodie’s not the only one I’ll be back to visit next time!

Day 8, Greeley > Omaha
I woke up *sorta* early and got all my belongings packed up to finally head to Nebraska. Got in a quick breakfast with Mick and then hit the road. The trip from Greeley to Omaha was really uneventful.

Made it onto Polk just in time to see Brandon for a quick second before he headed to his new home to do a little unpacking himself.
After unloading my car, I realized that all of the boxes I had packed in the car, were the wrong ones. All of the stuff I had planned on taking to NE is still back in Portland and all the stuff I had planned on saving till I got to NY is here with me. Oh well.

In the end, I had a really wonderful trip. I’m really glad I took my time getting out here. That was one of the things I hated the most about my move from Arizona to Oregon. I got there in such a rush, I didn’t take my time and enjoy every minute of it.

Hopefully the next time I post, it will be about a baby!!! Meg is due any day now and is doing wonderful. I had a lot of fun going to her Doctor's appointment and her last birthing class with her. We're all excited for little Garbonza to get her, but are hoping she can hold out for May 20th! So please keep Meg and Garbonza in your thoughts and prayers.
Until next time...

Super Shoot

Ahhh home at last. For the next 7 days anyway...

I just got back from a four day trip to Omaha and Kansas City.

Every year for Christmas, my parents always buy us one really BIG exciting gift. This past year they got me a weekend long workshop put on by Super Shoots that took place in Kansas City, MO. My gift also included airfare and rental car (which ended up not being necessary- thank you Corbett’s for always pulling though)!

I’ll be really honest with you... I was keeping my expectations low. I don’t know, there was just something about their website (and maybe it was the fact that it was taking place in Kansas City of all places) that just made me feel kinda “eh” about the whole thing.

The weekend started off great. I flew into Omaha basically just to drop some things off. It was great spending a little bit of time with Tim and Barb, getting to see Brandon for a few minutes; and I of course LOVED seeing little preggers Meg. I can’t believe how big she’s gotten since I saw her last in December... and to think, she’s only going to get bigger in the next month (give or take)! I can’t thank Tim enough for being so generous- he picked me up from the airport, gave me a few hours to wind down and unpack drove me straight to KC and then turned around and drove home. I love my family! <3

Onto the photography details...

So I get to the hotel where the workshop is being put on about 20 minutes early so Jessica drives me around KC a little bit. Ironically (you’ll see why in a moment) she takes me down and shows me all around the West Bottoms. It’s this old run down part of town, but they keep it because they use it every fall for haunted houses. Anyway...

The workshop starts off kinda “boring, boring, boring”. Finally, just before lunch, they bring in the first model (Maria) to demonstrate how to communicate with your model and also show some lighting examples. At this point, I’m listening a tad more intently because directing my model has never been a strong suite of mine and I’ve been told before that I need to work on it. Ugh- it’s so outside my comfort level. Oh well- that’s what I’m here to learn right?

So after lunch, all the other models show up, the photographers are paired off and off we go to shoot on location at the West Bottoms! This location really excited me because I love old run down creepy looking locations. And this place was great, every step you took, everywhere you turned, there was a completely new location to shoot. It was funny because when Jessica was showing me around earlier I couldn’t help but think to myself “damn, I wish I lived here because this would make for a kick ass location”. Needless to say, I was pretty excited to be shooting there.

Long story short, we spent the next 5 1/2 hours there taking turns with each model. Each time we’d be with one of the four Super Shoots mentors who’d constantly be watching us and guiding us. I really loved having them there to watch over my shoulder and get constant feedback. Not only that, but these models know that the photographers are here to learn, so they are very helpful and understanding of what we’re going through, and what we’re trying to accomplish.

After a long day of shooting, there’s nothing like going to a local dive bar (have I mentioned that my cousin Jessica is the KC marketing rep. for Pabts?) and watching some stationary bike races. Never heard of such a thing you say? Phenomenal I tell you. *I’ll try to post a video at some point

Day two started off much like day one, kinda slow but only “boring, boring”. We dove right into our Photoshop tutorial. Many of the participants requested to learn about skin smoothing- which is most DEFINITELY an area I’ve wanted to learn about for a really long time now. It was fascinating for me to watch Josh work on the image, do relatively minimal work, but change the image so much, and make it something so much more than what it started out as. My mind has definitely been blown- I just hope that when I get a free second to sit down and edit my own images, I can actually decipher my notes, and remember what he told me to translate that into my own work. It was then time for lunch was all an experience in and of itself. I won’t go into details, I’ll just say that I’m quite positive that I lunched with KC’s craziest. No joke.

The second half of the day was focused on studio lighting. I was really looking forward to this because as I had expressed to them on the first day, I’ve had a light meter for almost 4 years now, and never used it. I was a little disappointed when I came back from lunch and all of the lights and set up had already been done for us. Of course that’s great and all- but what does it teach us? Oh well, I’ll get my light meter training somewhere else.

After lunch is really where I got into my groove. For some reason, I just felt more free and comfortable to work with the models; grab the one I want, tell them what to do, give them more pointers, really get the shot that I had in my head. I felt like I clicked (no pun intended) really well with one model in particular, Jordan. I can’t wait to get done with all my packing so I can get to editing all of my images. Some of them are so great, I’m really happy with them and can’t wait to share them with everyone.

... Sounds like a sequel blog is in the works...

Lastly, when I got home I found most of the models I’d worked with over the weekend on either Facebook and/or Model Mayhem and befriended all of them.

It’s really important to me that while I don’t feel like I came out of this workshop with an overwhelming sense of knowledge, that I DID learn something. So I emailed each of the models asking for their input. I wanted to know what I did that they particularly liked, and what they felt like I could work on.

The response was overwhelming. I couldn’t believe all the wonderful things each of them had to say about me. I wanted to share with you what a few of them had to say:

“I loved that you weren't afraid to just tell me what you were looking for and how you wanted me to move!” - Kelsi Z

“It is refreshing working with a woman photographers and I like it. I wish there were more woman photographers out there. There is different comfort level that I feel shooting with a female that is for sure.” -April C

“I must say though out of all of the photographers you were definitely one of my faves.....and i cant wait to see the images we created.” - Jordan W

“I think you have a very unique style and it was a blast working with you. I'm looking forward to seeing our work!” - Travis F

I’ll keep it at that. I just wanted to share with you all my experience from this past weekend. Even if it didn’t hit me right away what I learned, I could not be happier that I attended the workshop. I was in such a funk, and even doubting if photography was what I wanted to be doing with my life- and it really brought me out of it. Now all I want to do is shoot, shoot, shoot!

Part II coming in a few weeks when I can get some time to edit so you all can see my finished product :)